Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you have had a baby... that somebody does not know that once you are a mother, "normal" is history.

Every new mom discovers that with motherhood a “new normal” becomes her form of life, whether she gave birth to the child or not. It is obviously a different experience for everyone, but there are things that most women would agree with on the reality of the learnings through motherhood:

Humility: Upon dealing with her first few days as a mom, she experiences humility in a way, dimension and capacity she never knew before. This new person in her life needs her and depends on her, this child is a new responsibility and somehow implicitly places his/her trust in her - mom would know what to do. She realizes and recognizes that most of what she has done or known her entire life might not be enough to make all decisions correctly. How come? The new mom, usually reaches out to other moms, a trusted community to learn more about this new state of life. Her definition of efficiency and performance takes another level.

Unconditional love: A powerful lesson during the first few months of motherhood is the realization of the actual existence of unconditional love. Somehow this amazing new person has grown in her heart, she thinks of him/her often, cares about what he/she is going through, she is curious about this new life in her life, but in a loving way … Her child can do whatever and she knows she will always love him/her, no matter what. Every other type of love she has experienced before is in its conditional form: “If you are good to me, I love you more, if you are not so good, I love you less”. But this rule does not apply to her child; with him/her the form of love is: “Do not be afraid, I am here for you, forever”.

Service: The incomprehensible peace and joy that sacrifice or service for a loved one can bring. She places herself at a secondary priority with respect to her child and she does not care. She is willing to give up something she likes or wants in exchange for the wellbeing of her child.

In this “new normal” another dimension of love is learned and lived. It lasts for the rest of her life.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you do not need to tell her... that somebody is not a mother!